Crafting Your Own Love Story: A Beginner's Guide to Personalised Wedding Vows

As you stand across from your partner, ready to embark on a journey together, the words you choose to express your love and commitment can truly make your wedding day unforgettable. Crafting your own love story through personalised wedding vows can be a beautiful and deeply meaningful experience, reflecting your unique bond and the promises you make to each other.

To start, you may wish to discuss a word or page limit with your partner, but they dont need to be equal in length- as a guide, we speak around 30-45 seconds per 100 words

Why Personalised Wedding Vows?

Traditionally, wedding vows are a set of predefined words repeated by couples during the ceremony (Big fan here - I used them in my first of two ceremonies!). While they hold significant value and haven't lost their shine over the years, personalised wedding vows offer a chance to infuse your ceremony with your authentic voice and sentiments. By crafting your own vows, you have the opportunity to express your feelings in a way that resonates with you and your partner (I truly enjoyed writing and reading out my own for our second/legal celebration).

Getting Started

• Reflect on Your Relationship : Look back on your life together up to this point and reminisce about the special moments shared with your partner. Think about what makes your relationship unique and what qualities you deeply love about each other.

• Find Inspiration : Seek inspo from books, movies, poems, or even your favourite song lyrics. Let these sources spark your creativity and you can always quote (with references) those that you enjoy together.

• Write from the Heart : Most importantly, be genuine and sincere in your vows. This is a beautiful opportunity and moment in your life together, so don't be flippant. Your vows should reflect your love story authentically, announce your promises and honour your future spouse.

• Let your personality shine through : One more funny and one more romantic in the relationship? Great! Your tone doesn'tneed to match each other, but should be about showing who you are and your unique personality through your chosen words

Structure of Personalised Vows

• Introduction : Begin by addressing your partner and sharing a few words about what they mean to you.

• Personal Promise : Make specific promises to your partner based on your relationship and future together.

• Shared Memories : Recall a special moment or memory that signifies your love and bond.

• Future focus: Express your hopes and dreams for the future and how you see your lives together unfolding.

• Closing : End with a heartfelt declaration of your love and commitment.

Dos and Don'ts of Writing Vows

Dos:

• Be Authentic : Write vows that reflect your true feelings and sentiments.

• Practice Out Loud : Read your vows aloud to ensure they flow naturally and resonate with you.

• Seek Feedback : Share your vows with a trusted friend, family member or Celebrant for valuable feedback if you're feeling unsure.

Don'ts:

• Avoid Clichés : Steer clear of overused phrases and clichés. Your vows should be personal and original.

• Don't Procrastinate : Start early to give yourself enough time to craft vows that are meaningful and well-thought-out.

Final Thoughts

Crafting personalised wedding vows is a beautiful way to tailor your wedding ceremony to reflect your unique love story. Embrace this opportunity to express your love, commitment, and promises to your partner in a heartfelt and authentic manner. Remember, these vows will serve as a lasting testament to your bond, reminding you of the love you share each time you revisit them. So, let your love story unfold through the words you carefully choose to craft your own personalized wedding vows.

Let your love story be the centrepiece of your wedding day, encapsulated in the vows you exchange with your partner, creating a truly unforgettable and meaningful moment that sets the tone for your life together.

Want me to print these off and prepare in my custom A5 folders? Great! Email through your vows a few days before the wedding and I will ensure its all sorted for you!

Cheers to an unforgettable ceremony and locking in life with your number one ❤️